The ex and I used to shop A LOT. For whatever reason I'd buy him this and that with no regard as to how it was going to effect me financially. After having no boyfriend for 7 months and having to pay bills that were from stuff I bought him from that time, I was able to wake up this morning and pay off EVERYTHING. I don't think anybody really knows how freeing that is but let me tell you, it's an AMAZING feeling. A few months before we broke up I almost had my one large credit card paid off. I think I only had $2000 left to pay on it. And then I made a big purchase for the ex and BAM. Back to square one. I have some theories as to why we buy people things but I really don't want to go into them in depth. In a nut shell, I kind of figure that we do these things for people we love because a) you like to make them happy or b) you're trying to buy their love. For me, the choice was A. I love to see people happy and I don't really think twice a lot of times about buying them something if it's something they need or even just something they'd want to have but can't get themselves. It's second nature because I do it for family and friends as well. In this case, my buying got out of hand and I ended up in a bigger hole than I could ever imagine. To the point where paying on interest on a credit card was ALL I was doing every month and there was no progress being made.
At this point in my life I'm thinking more about my future. There's things that I want to do in the near future but I can easily see the need to be able to pay off whatever I charge every month without racking up some huge debt. If I can't do some of those things when I want to, they're just going to have to wait because I refuse to go back into that hole for anybody, including myself.
I've never been the most financially responsible person but apparently it's time to step up and take on that challenge. Why not? I'm already on a mission to do other new things things year that I haven't done before so that's going on the list. :)
On another note, these past few months have been CRAZY exciting. I've gotten the opportunity to fly to CA to a training camp at Punishment Training Center (owned by Tito Ortiz) and will be trained for 2-3 days by Cris Cyborg. Google her if you don't know the name. It's going to be brutal and I'll probably need to write a will before I go but hey, its something I love and I'm good at. Plus, my training partner will be coming with me and she's just kick ass anyway so it'll be a good time.
I've been traveling a lot which everyone in the world knows I love to do. I'd like to plan something special for my birthday this year since I didn't do much of anything last year. We'll see. It's a little ways off and there's other priorities first that need to be taken care of.
I'm seeing someone new and I'm pretty excited about it but unless you know me and you're well informed, details shall be kept to myself. All I WILL say is that he actually SHOWS that he cares and that's pretty nice to have. He's younger and that's different for me but honestly, he's got his shit together more than some older people I've been with so it's really not a big deal. So there's that.
I'll be moving soon so that's going to be an adventure in itself. I'm sticking to VA for another year because I couldn't find a school on such short notice for my daughter but I think this is how things are meant to play out. I feel settled and on the right track at the moment with no major hang ups and that's a good thing. I feel like I'm focused on the right things and being the best person I can be right now and more so, I'm HAPPY with where I am in life.
I definitely haven't written in awhile and I'm okay with that. I come here when I feel called to do so and that's enough for me.
So, until next time. Here's to the small moments of struggling that have turned into a larger picture of success. Cheers.
I've been traveling a lot which everyone in the world knows I love to do. I'd like to plan something special for my birthday this year since I didn't do much of anything last year. We'll see. It's a little ways off and there's other priorities first that need to be taken care of.
I'm seeing someone new and I'm pretty excited about it but unless you know me and you're well informed, details shall be kept to myself. All I WILL say is that he actually SHOWS that he cares and that's pretty nice to have. He's younger and that's different for me but honestly, he's got his shit together more than some older people I've been with so it's really not a big deal. So there's that.
I'll be moving soon so that's going to be an adventure in itself. I'm sticking to VA for another year because I couldn't find a school on such short notice for my daughter but I think this is how things are meant to play out. I feel settled and on the right track at the moment with no major hang ups and that's a good thing. I feel like I'm focused on the right things and being the best person I can be right now and more so, I'm HAPPY with where I am in life.
I definitely haven't written in awhile and I'm okay with that. I come here when I feel called to do so and that's enough for me.
So, until next time. Here's to the small moments of struggling that have turned into a larger picture of success. Cheers.
