I said this morning that I was going to make a list of things Id really like to find in whoever I end up dating next. I did that today (actually, just in the last half hour or so) and I made my final list of races that I want to do this year. I greatly narrowed it down from a huge list of about 15 to a list that's practical and financially affordable. Id love to be able to do everything but some of the dates overlapped with each other & with other things (eh hem...TVD Convention again in Vegas anyone?!). Plus, at no less than $40 a race per person plus hotels & gas & food (I usually make it a weekend event), these things get a little costly. Beginning in March I'll be doing a Foam Glow run in Richmond (not too far away!). There's a Color Run in April, a Wounded Warrior run in June, a Dirty Girl mud run in August, and I'm finishing off the year by flying to Disneyland in CA for the Disney Half Marathon. There's also a 10K that weekend at the same location so I haven't fully decided which Im going to train for. I may just push myself to go for the 13.1 miles...we'll see. I have til February to decide because that's when registration opens. I'm VERY excited. I signed my daughter up to run a couple of the color runs with me so it really will be fun!! (Side note: I never would have thought I'd be combining the words running and fun in any sense...)
Anyhow, so the majority of the day was taken up by appointments...my munchkin has to have oral surgery next Thursday morning. :-( Im more worried than she is!!!! No kidding. I was sitting in the surgeons office listening to them talk about putting her out with the IV and just worrying to death. My daughter however was like "Oh. Well, okay. I'm a little nervous but I'm a blackbelt in karate so it'll be okay." She never fails to amaze me and I love her SO much. I'm so proud of the independent, strong little lady she's becoming.
So, a bit ago, I wrote a "Dear Santa" blog. I was griping about a day when I had lunch with some friends that couldn't discuss anything except for sexual stuff. I got irritated because that entire day was filled with innuendos and disregard for any emotional crap I was going through at the time. It got me thinking about things that would be nice to have if I could ever find someone that didn't play games & was trustworthy. My initial list is first followed by a couple add ons. Overall, it's really been a fabulous few days. I'm happy, smiling, laughing...and I genuinely feel like I'd even be okay going out with someone new. Only problem with that is I DON'T DATE. I've said it a million times: I hate dating. I'd rather have friends that can travel to cool places with me but all my friends are married with kids...so yeah. I suppose that will certainly help my 2015 goal of more travel but I'll be doing it by myself sometimes! If anyone figures out the answer to the dating thing let me know.
The Things I'd like to find in my other half:
1) Please be well-rounded and semi-aware of happenings in the world. I don't watch the news. In fact, I hate the news. And I hate politics. But I semi-know about issues in the world because I'm part of social media and I check up on things so that if people talk about them, I can join in the conversation if I want to.
2) Please read. Please read more than Maxim. Not to say it doesn't have good articles, because sometimes it does. But please read books or something of that sort. I don't care if you read Biographies or Fiction or Sci-Fi. Just read something other than trashy magazines. My favorite books are fantasy/fiction types but chances are, if you suggest a book, I'll read it.
3) Please love music. Or at least LIKE it. Please realize that I love all genres of music unless it makes me want to slam my head against a wall (re: System of a Down or Rage Against the Machine) or drive a tractor through a cornfield because my dog got ran over by my ex-wife (re: super twangy country). Please know what a Genre is.
4) Like to travel! This isn't a request unless you don't ever want to go anywhere with me and even then, that really isn't cool. It's a deal-breaker for the most part because I WILL travel. It'd be great if you liked to learn about other cultures like I do but you MUST be a good travel buddy and also like road trips (random ones are the most fun).
5) You're going to need to like to eat. I love to eat & I love to try new foods. I eat 6 times a day (Please don't comment on the fact I'm always eating. I'm pretty aware of the fact that I carry around protein bars and fruit and such). Would you rather me be grumpy?
6) Understand that I'm not a stereo-typical female. Cars, UFC, motorcycles...those things top my list of stuff that I know & understand & can discuss because I've had experience with all of them at some point or another. However, I AM still female. I like shoes (they may be running shoes but still...) & sunglasses & shopping randomly (window shopping is awesome). I won't beg you to go shopping with me. I'll ask you if you want to go and I won't throw a fit if you say no. If you say yes, we can definitely look at stuff you want to look for (or if you want to go to Lowe's or Gander Mountain or something I'm cool with that too. I like those stores). I also won't ask you to pay for stuff for me or carry my bags.
7) Please know that I like a few of the finer things in life. I like the quality designer things have because they really don't wear out as fast as some other things. I like to go to really nice restaurants once in awhile and stay in nice hotels when I travel. If it's just us, I like renting impractical awesome cars when we travel. Because I can and it's fun sometimes to do stuff that's not completely logical. However, I do love Target and TJ Maxx as well.
8) Be healthy! This isn't a request. You need to be as concerned about your health as I am about mine because A) It gives us the option to do active things together (get your mind out of the gutter. I'm talking about snowboarding and hiking and the like). B) I REALLY don't like fast food (except maybe Chic Fil A once in awhile). It makes me feel guilty to say "You can stop there but I'm not eating anything". If you're of the healthier mindset you'll also understand WHY I'm in the gym as much as I am. Please don't complain about me going to the gym as much as I do. I work my ass off for what I have and I don't intend on losing it.
ADDITIONS TO THIS LIST:
9) You need to accept that my daughter & I are a package deal. It's both of us, not just me. Please treat her as so after you meet her. If you disrespect her (or if you just doesn't like you) it just won't work.
10) Animals! You really should love animals. I have a soft spot in my heart for all animals, I love the zoo and the aquarium even though I've been there TONS of times! My 2 dogs are my babies and they're spoiled rotten. If they don't like you either, it's not going to work.
11) Don't be afraid to speak up and talk to me. You MUST be willing to TALK to me.
12) I'm sensitive and if I don't understand something you've said, I'll ask what you meant or if you can repeat yourself. It doesn't mean I wasn't listening it just means I'm not processing what you're meaning. Please attempt to explain yourself again without getting frustrated with me.
13) Please be willing to go out once in awhile, have a couple drinks and just hang out or go dancing or something but also know that I like to stay home and cuddle on the couch with a good movie as well. If you wanna throw some wine & a fireplace in there I'm TOTALLY okay with that (Moscato D'Asti is my favorite wine).
14) Don't play games. This is NOT a request. I'm 31 and I STILL can't find somebody that knows what loyalty and exclusivity actually means. If you want to give the girl with the nice ass a look at the beach, cool. Chances are, I'll have noticed her first and pointed her out to you. If you want to Facebook message your "friend" that's your ex girlfriend on Facebook about your sex life...First, you're getting a dictionary for Christmas that's turned to the page where "inappropriate" is listed. Second, you're now single.
15) The beach. Like the beach. I LOVE the beach and I feel most at home when I'm near the ocean. I will travel to the beach A LOT during the summer so I'd like it if you go with me.
16) Let me know when YOU want to do something for YOU. Guys night out? Cool. Have fun. Want me to come and do something you love? Awesome. If I like it, I'll join you next time too. If not? Don't stop doing what you love because I might not like it. Teach me about things you enjoy. We'll switch off on stuff like picking movies, places to eat, & things we do together. There's no reason for one person to get everything they want and the other to be left feeling like the things they like are not important.
17) Realize that all of these things apply to me as well in a vice versa context. If you think I'm being weird or sketchy, call me out on it and let's discuss like adults. Then we can make up. :)
I'm sure I'll be adding to this but that's it for now.
Here's to PROGRESS. CHEERS.
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