* My day was good.
* Kick ass leg workout
*Lunch with friends
*Got my IIFYM food list made for the next few days
*Went to the BJJ school & got info on a Krav class that starts in January
*Grocery shopped
*Studied
*No drama, no emotional moments, etc etc.
So, when I got home I was getting dinner ready & I found myself a bit irritated. Throughout the things I did today, with a few exceptions, the males I've come across today, talked to, and listened to have had nothing of substantial significance to say other than to utter something of sexual reference. No, none of them were hitting on me. It's just been their preferred topic of conversation with the other people surrounding them and has related to any question they ask and comment they make.
This irritates me. I understand if you're with a group of friends or a friend and jokes come up. Whatever, I've made jokes and sexual innuendos myself. Not an issue.
But seriously, to sit for over an hour with that being your only topic of conversation or to take something that someone is speaking about seriously and have a sexual comment be your only input?
I walked around for the majority of my day wondering to myself if it's possible for guys to think about absolutely anything except for that. It really gets old having that be the only thing that you refer to and talk about. Truly.
Today I was SO thankful for the lunch I had yesterday with amazing company. The entire conversation veered toward educated, well-rounded, interesting, a wide variety of topics. For that, I seriously could give that person a huge hug and a high five for not making my brain want to explode.
So, with all that said, I'm making my "Dear Santa" Christmas list for things I now know I'm going to need in a guy. In no particular order:
1) Please be well-rounded and semi-aware of happenings in the world. I don't watch the news. In fact, I hate the news. And I hate politics. But I semi-know about issues in the world because I'm part of social media and I check up on things so that if people talk about them, I can join in the conversation if I want to.
2) Please read. Please read more than Maxim. Not to say it doesn't have good articles, because it does. But please read books. I don't care if you read Biographies or Fiction or Sci-Fi. Just read something other than magazines. My favorite books are fantasy/fiction type books (Vampire Diaries, Hunger Games, 50 Shades of Grey or Crossfire series, etc.) but if you suggest a book, chances are, I'll read it.
3) Please love music. And realize that I love all genres of music unless it makes me want to slam my head against a wall (re: System of a Down or Rage Against the Machine) or drive a tractor through a cornfield because my dog got ran over by my ex wife (re: super twangy Country). Please know what a Genre is.
4) Please love to travel. This is a deal breaker. You need to understand that I love to travel and I have the means to travel and I WILL travel. Along with this, you need to accept other cultures and be willing to try new things and you need to be a good road buddy.
5) Please love food. There's not much else to that. I love to eat and try new foods and you need to love food too. I usually eat 6 times a day so don't comment on the fact that I'm always eating. It's obvious. I know I carry around protein bars and fruit but seriously, would you rather me be grumpy because I'm hungry? Because I will be if you don't let me have food.
4) Please understand that I'm not a stereo-typical girl. I love cars. I like UFC. I like motorcycles. And I know about these things because I've had experience with all of them at some point or another. Also understand that I AM still a female. So I like to shop, I love shoes, and I love sunglasses. I'd prefer if you shopped with me even if you're shopping for yourself. Or if we're just shopping for you. Either way is fine. But don't decide to be a pain in the ass when I tell you I'm going shopping because A) I won't ask for you to pay for stuff I want and B) sometimes I just like to walk around a mall even if I don't buy anything.
5) Please like a few of the finer things in life. Dressing up once in awhile to go to a REALLY nice restaurant, staying in nice hotels, renting cars that aren't really practical when we travel. Understand that I like designer brands because of the quality. But, I still shop at Target and TJ Maxx too.
6) Please be healthy. This isn't really a request. It's a must. You need to be as concerned about your health as I am about mine because A) It gives us something to do together (hiking, swimming, skiing/snowboarding possibly, etc) and talk about and B) I REALLY don't like fast food (the exception is Chic-Fil-A once in awhile) and it makes me feel guilty to say "You can stop there, but I'm not eating anything". Plus, if you're healthy, you'll understand why I'm in the gym as much as I am. Please don't complain about me going to the gym.
Those are the things that come to mind after today. There are other things that are typical and obvious in any relationship. I suppose it doesn't matter what your age is because if you're mature enough, the unmentioned things shine through in actions since they speak louder than words.
Bottom line is that I know what I want. Exes in any relationship are exes for a reason. Over the years I've been able to build a list of what I want and don't want in a person and things to look for and other things to be aware of. Nobody's perfect. I'm most certainly not as obviously proven by the fact that I started this blog to begin with. But everyone has expectations. If we didn't, then we would settle for anyone and wouldn't be able to share life our other half that helps us to reach our lifelong goals and wants to share in our successes and failures.
So here's to finding someone that meets our expectations but also to realizing that you're fabulousness and quirks and flaws will also meet someone else's expectations one day as well.
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